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[vg_ford]

For those who don't read my other journal, we found out today that our cat Max has terminal cancer. We don't know how long he has, but we're going to just go with the flow. He'll let us know when it's time to let him go.

This has been a terrible summer. We've lost so many friends in our circle - I'm beginning to wonder if I'm some kind of Typhoid Mary - everything I touch, everything I love seems to be dying at the moment. And don't talk to me about getting a new cat. I don't want a new cat. I want my cat.

I know it sounds childish, but it's so not fair. Why does it have to hurt so much?

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Support

[(Anonymous)]

Sorry to read about the news, hobbes. Support vibes sent your way at this troubling time. Most important thing to remember is that YOU'RE NOT RESPONSIBLE (unless your holding the knife/gun/garrote, etc. Then shame on you! :)

Joel
joela.blogspot.com

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[vg-ford.livejournal.com]

thanks, Joel. I know it's not my fault, but he's my baby - I feel responsible anyways.

We're going to enjoy the time we have left, and cherish his memory.

Thanks for the kind thoughts and words.

[calene.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear that. *hugs* No, it doesn't sound childish to me. For some of us, pets are irreplaceable. Each is unique and special, and they'll always have a special place in our hearts that belongs just to them. Keeping your family in my my thoughts.

[vg-ford.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Calene. It's a rough time, but with all the good wishes we're getting, I know we'll make it through.

[shanrina.livejournal.com]

*hugs* I'm so sorry.

[jackoutofthebox.livejournal.com]

Pets are family members just like children and spouses. We grow attached to them and it hurts when these kinds of things happen. Like family members, everyone dies, but it's always hard to let go regardless of that spot in the family. The Household sends our Condolensces.

[cucumberseed.livejournal.com]

*hug*

yeh. there were other things I could say, but none of them sound at all good to me right now, so we'll stick with what we know.

[vg-ford.livejournal.com]

Thanks. It's been hard, but everyone's been great.

[vg-ford.livejournal.com]

Thanks. It means a lot to Argus and I that everyone is so sympathetic. :)

[barlidoc.livejournal.com]

I wish the both of you lots of love and wish Max tons of pets and kisses. We were pulling for him over here. Beth kept asking about Max and so wanted him to be OK. I know you're going to give him the same loving care you always have--so much more than many cats receive!

On the 'get a new cat' thing. I've had people do that too, when I've lost pets. Mostly I think it's a kind of brain fart, brought about by a mental shutdown due to not knowing how to respond to tragedy. I'll bet they kick themselves later! My opinion is like yours; there is only one Max and you'll miss him because he's unique and special. Whoever said pets can be swapped one for another, never had pets, IMHO.

*hugs both Max and Val*

Hugs

[(Anonymous)]

Oh, no! I just lost my Magellan not too long ago, and it's horrible. I miss him so much. I'm so sorry. Even if you have some time with him, it's not enough, and it's so hard to do.

Jean

Hugs

[marfisk]

I went through this two years ago now and I'm just now coming to the point where I can remember the happy times with only a twinge of sorrow. Believe it or not, that wasn't meant to get you down but to recognize just how big a contribution cats make in our lives for all they have such short ones themselves. One thing that helped me was to spend time looking at old pictures and writing up memories of the good times so that I remembered with gratitude and joy all that Roy had given me and my family rather than dwelling on the disease he suffered.

Hugs,
Margaret

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[vg-ford.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Mar. We're doing that now - spending as much time with him as we can, taking lots of pictures and just spoiling him rotten. It's worth it - we're trying to cram several more years worth of love into a couple of weeks or months.