I had a very interesting conversation with a friend of mine yesterday at the household Michaelmas. Her 11-yr-old daughter had been diagnosed with a similar disease to mine in the past year, and we were discussing the challenges of living with Crohn's and similar disorders. She said one thing to me that I've been saying but not doing: I'd been saying that I constantly come up with more things I "need to do" in life, and she said,

"You need to take care of you first."

She's right. If I don't take care of myself first, then the rest of the "I need to do"s don't matter. So I'm going to try, once again, to remember this.

I started last night - I came home from Michaelmas and did things that made it easier for me this morning - I made dinner for tonight (since I'm working late today), packed lunches for Argus and I, put my work clothes in my gym bag and, most importantly, went to bed at 11 pm. And didn't stress that I didn't write.

Because I can't do it all. I'm not Supergirl. I'm Val, and Val needs to learn to chill out and not take on the world all day, every day.

I weighed myself this morning, and will be continuing to do so every day. This week, I'm going to go to the gym Monday, Wednesday and Friday, and I'm going to weigh myself every Wednesday morning (today is my baseline weight). I'm doing my goals one week at a time, so I don't stress myself out even more.

Starting Weight: 291 lbs.
Weight this Morning: 291 lbs.
Goal Weight: 261.9 lbs.
Goal Deadline: April 1, 2009

That's a pound a week, roughly. I'm more concerned with being healthy and getting into good habits, but if I don't have a deadline, I don't do anything.

Wish me luck!

From: [identity profile] utilitygeek.livejournal.com

I concur with the 11-year-old.

I think most of my friends/family would tell you that item #1 on my list of Important Things is to take care of those I love. Which is why #0 is to take care of me.

If I don't take care of me, what resources can I possibly muster for others?

From: [identity profile] vg-ford.livejournal.com

Oh definitely. My head knows it - now I just have to work on reminding myself of that fact every day. I get caught up in the "have to help everyone else" far too easily.

From: [identity profile] jenstclair.livejournal.com

I agree. I just ordered some yoga and stretching DVDs for my birthday present so I can start taking care of myself too!

From: [identity profile] scarlettarcher.livejournal.com

Well done love, an excellent choice and I'm glad you got hubby there to remind you to. It's a brave choice, and we'll be here to help you stick to it.

From: [identity profile] empath-1111.livejournal.com

((HUGS)) Val. You know I'm rooting for you. If I can help you in any way with this, just let me know.

From: [identity profile] vg-ford.livejournal.com

Thanks. :) I might pick your brain for some of your nonsugar, non-artificial sweetner tricks.

I just have to start making good choices, instead of easy ones, if that makes sense.

From: [identity profile] vg-ford.livejournal.com

BTW, I have to tell you that your icon is AWESOME - you look so good!

You are my hero, btw.

From: [identity profile] starlitears.livejournal.com

Val = love!

My dr's are pushing the weigh yourself once a week, no more no less. And I think that's a good idea. I'm the same way with a goal weight - I don't care so much about the goal - but if I don't set one - I won't do squat.

From: [identity profile] vg-ford.livejournal.com

I'm weighing myself at least once a week - my official weigh-ins (for me) are going to be Wednesdays. I just needed a baseline to start out with.

And yeah, if I get to, say, 180 and I'm looking good and feeling healthy and able to do everything I want to, I'm not going to worry that I didn't make it to my "goal weight."


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