Contemplations on life

[vg_ford]

I'm in a philosophical mood today. For those who didn't know, argus7hills and I found out today that I wasn't pregnant after all. This isn't a bad thing, and we found out that nothing else was wrong (a baby wouldn't have been a bad thing either, but at least it wasn't diabetes or another major health problem), but it's gotten me thinking about a lot of things in my life, and I feel the need to share these thoughts.

A baby would have been a whole new chapter in our life. (I know, big shocker, huh?) I was lying in bed this morning, waiting for the doctor to call with the test results and wondering where the hell we were going to put baby stuff if I really was pregnant. I mean, I'm a pack rat. I fully admit to this, and I know I need help. Hell, I was looking through my drawers the other day and finding clothing that I haven't worn since high school. (to put that in perspective, my 10-year college reunion is next year, and I was on a 5-year program) Then I went grocery shopping, and while putting away my groceries, found that I couldn't fit anything more into my freezer. Why? Because there was still food in there that had moved with us the last time. TWO YEARS AGO. So I cleaned out the freezer, and thus my spring cleaning begins.

I'm almost 32 years old, and yet, I really don't know if I'm old enough to have a baby. I still stay up too late, drink too much on occasion, and bounce checks once in a while. I haven't got nearly enough money put away for an emergency, I've never been overseas and the apartment is too small for more than the five of us (argus7hills, me and the three kittens).

And yet, we would have adapted. We would have moved stuff around, done a thorough purge and found the room. Maybe I'm more ready than I thought.

Several upsides of not being pregnant:
1. I can drink the Yuengling that caitlindancer brought me back from NJ on St. Patty's day!
2. I can party at RavenCon and not worry about it.
3. Not being 7 months pregnant at Pennsic.
4. More time to practice with the hubby. :D

Okay, philosophical stuff done.

Comments

[peartreealley.livejournal.com]

My best friend has twin boys, and still drinks too much, stays up too late, and bounces checks. And the boys are fine and she takes great care of them.

The fact you think about these things, though, means you are more ready than you think, and you would adapt.

When I was 19-21, I was all ready for babies. Now that I'm halfway to 27, I'm not sure if I am! *laughs*

I really think it's one of those things where someone might think they are more prepared than another person, but when it happens, it happens, and you'll figure it out.

'Course, I still don't have kids, so maybe I'm full of it :)

[vg-ford.livejournal.com]

LOL - I know what you mean. My younger brother and his wife are expecting their first baby this August. And she's 22. *sigh*

[calene.livejournal.com]

Another upside of not being pregnant...

5. More writing time. ;)

Seriously, though... I don't think anyone is ever truly prepared to have a baby. If anything, because each person's experiences are different. But I think what you mentioned about how you and your hubby would have adapted shows that maybe you are more prepared than you thought. Adaptability goes a long way for something as huge as having a baby.

[vg-ford.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I hear you. And yes, more writing time!!!

[mooseythehut.livejournal.com]

What they all keep telling me is that you're never really ready. They say that if you wait until you're ready, you'll never do it. They say that if you bother to worry about being ready, then you probably are.

So just do it :)

I think it might be like writing in that aspect. The manuscript will never be perfectly polished. Hell, if you're like me, you see it in print and you still think "gah! I should have changed that!"
But you still submit it. Because it will never be perfect. Maybe having a kid is like that.

And if it makes you feel any better Val, I'm in the same boat you are. So I totally, totally know how you feel. *Hoogles™*

[vg-ford.livejournal.com]

LOL - well, I'm looking forward to "researching" this a bit more. ;)

[jackoutofthebox.livejournal.com]

And if you wait until your financially secure, it'll never happen either. You just have to look at your immediate future and say "Can I maintain how I'm living now for the next 2-3 years atleast? If you can say yes to that, then kids can be an option.

[vg-ford.livejournal.com]

Very true.

[empath-1111.livejournal.com]

Practice with the hubby is always a good thing. Having kids while your are still a little irresponsible can be a good thing. It means you have the energy and flexiblity to deal with everything a child throws at you. It also means that maybe you won't sweat the little stuff too much. And I would recommend avoiding all the tests and concerns about having a child when you are 36 years old or older. Now might just be the time for the two of you.

[vg-ford.livejournal.com]

It might be. We'll see. We're not stopping practicing. :p